I feel compelled to write this. Am not the kind who goes around broadcasting my sexuality, but I feel extremely compelled to write this. So that people will cease to make ignorant AND hurtful comments.
Let me just start off by saying this:
I am a bisexual.
Its not something I strictly adhere to, as labels do FAIL to completely and appropriately describe a person. Especially when you are dealing with human beings. With this, I am going to say, I am dating a lady now, but call me a lesbian and I might shoot you. Not that I'm against lesbians or anything. I am quite active in the lesbian communities, but I maintain a stand that I am a bisexual, because of my potential to date men.
I believe there is not a need to date both parties before I can actually "qualify" as a bisexual. Because bisexuality encompasses the potential to date members of both genders. By saying this, I would just like to say that gender, again, is not an all-encompassing label. There are wayy too many people out there who do not fall into the "male" "female" category. [I will give you real examples if you request for it, but now, I shall assume that this is not a surprising/debatable statement.]
I'll like to go on a little bit more about gender. Well, generally you have two kinds of gender -- your physical gender, and your so-called emotional gender. That said, it does NOT mean that if you are male, you naturally display masculine traits; and vice versa. The lady I am currently dating does not bind her breasts. She does not dress in a "manly" way. She does not talk in a "manly" way. She might have certain "male-mindsets", but that does not make her a man. And since when did mindsets have a fixed gender? What about the straight tom-boys? What about the straight effeminate males?
Lesbians are proud to be female.
Call a butch a "he" and she will go, "excuse me, I am a woman." Its two completely different entities when you talk about sexuality and gender. Dont mix them up. And dont ever, fucking, stereotype. Simply because it is insulting and hurtful.
I would like to briefly touch on the issue that not all lesbians are completely homosexual. Just like not all straight people are completely heterosexual. For example, a lesbian's desire to sleep with a man doesnt mean she wants a relationship. That said, please do not confuse a person's sexuality, with a person's ethics. Straight people can also have the desire for orgies. And for one, being bisexual does not mean I want to sleep with both genders, at the same time.
I'm losing my train of thoughts as I have so much to say about this issue. But I think my main point, that I have been trying to make for a very very very long time is, do not reject people just because they do not fall into your narrow-minded categories. Accept them for who they are even though you do not understand. And if you dont understand, dont make ignorant comments.
The lady I'm dating is not thin. She's round and possibly overweight. She is a lesbian-identified-as-bisexual. She is 31 years old. She plays warcraft.
She is not masculine. She is not butch. She is quite childish. She might marry a man to settle down. She is capable of being monogamous (and so am I).
I am not with her just because she's a female, and that I'd like to prove my bisexuality. I am not with her just because she plays warcraft.
I am with her because she is who she is, and I like her.
p.s. Forget about gender, and you might understand.
p.p.s. I'd like to go on about gender roles, but I shant. Basically, I get offended when people tell me that homosexual relationships are built on heterosexual relationships. I.e. There is a "male" and a "female" in every relationship. Well, I'd like to change that to, there is a "masculine" and a feminine" in every relationship, BUT, these traits not necessarily separates. You can find both feminine AND masculine traits in A person.
Argh. I need to stop. But anyway. These are my beliefs. I'm not trying to force them on you, except for one belief -- live and let live.
Let me just start off by saying this:
I am a bisexual.
Its not something I strictly adhere to, as labels do FAIL to completely and appropriately describe a person. Especially when you are dealing with human beings. With this, I am going to say, I am dating a lady now, but call me a lesbian and I might shoot you. Not that I'm against lesbians or anything. I am quite active in the lesbian communities, but I maintain a stand that I am a bisexual, because of my potential to date men.
I believe there is not a need to date both parties before I can actually "qualify" as a bisexual. Because bisexuality encompasses the potential to date members of both genders. By saying this, I would just like to say that gender, again, is not an all-encompassing label. There are wayy too many people out there who do not fall into the "male" "female" category. [I will give you real examples if you request for it, but now, I shall assume that this is not a surprising/debatable statement.]
I'll like to go on a little bit more about gender. Well, generally you have two kinds of gender -- your physical gender, and your so-called emotional gender. That said, it does NOT mean that if you are male, you naturally display masculine traits; and vice versa. The lady I am currently dating does not bind her breasts. She does not dress in a "manly" way. She does not talk in a "manly" way. She might have certain "male-mindsets", but that does not make her a man. And since when did mindsets have a fixed gender? What about the straight tom-boys? What about the straight effeminate males?
Lesbians are proud to be female.
Call a butch a "he" and she will go, "excuse me, I am a woman." Its two completely different entities when you talk about sexuality and gender. Dont mix them up. And dont ever, fucking, stereotype. Simply because it is insulting and hurtful.
I would like to briefly touch on the issue that not all lesbians are completely homosexual. Just like not all straight people are completely heterosexual. For example, a lesbian's desire to sleep with a man doesnt mean she wants a relationship. That said, please do not confuse a person's sexuality, with a person's ethics. Straight people can also have the desire for orgies. And for one, being bisexual does not mean I want to sleep with both genders, at the same time.
I'm losing my train of thoughts as I have so much to say about this issue. But I think my main point, that I have been trying to make for a very very very long time is, do not reject people just because they do not fall into your narrow-minded categories. Accept them for who they are even though you do not understand. And if you dont understand, dont make ignorant comments.
The lady I'm dating is not thin. She's round and possibly overweight. She is a lesbian-identified-as-bisexual. She is 31 years old. She plays warcraft.
She is not masculine. She is not butch. She is quite childish. She might marry a man to settle down. She is capable of being monogamous (and so am I).
I am not with her just because she's a female, and that I'd like to prove my bisexuality. I am not with her just because she plays warcraft.
I am with her because she is who she is, and I like her.
p.s. Forget about gender, and you might understand.
p.p.s. I'd like to go on about gender roles, but I shant. Basically, I get offended when people tell me that homosexual relationships are built on heterosexual relationships. I.e. There is a "male" and a "female" in every relationship. Well, I'd like to change that to, there is a "masculine" and a feminine" in every relationship, BUT, these traits not necessarily separates. You can find both feminine AND masculine traits in A person.
Argh. I need to stop. But anyway. These are my beliefs. I'm not trying to force them on you, except for one belief -- live and let live.
