Traditionalist?
"4000 Singaporeans file for a divorce EACH YEAR"
(ok, i dont have the exact quote cos i have to register for the straits times online to access the article. And that's just a waste of my time, albeit my newspaper is 2 levels down.)
Anyway, I never thought that the situation was THATT bad. It simply never struck me that we Singaporeans, are losing so much of our "Asian roots", and succumbing to (irritating) "Western values".
I am a traditionalist -- one that keeps closely in mind my roots, while accepting modern views. I believe in moving on (explains my piercings??). But i strongly believe that one must not forget our roots. Simply because, if everyone does so, in 1000 years' time, everyone will be the same. No more cultural exchange, no more different views, no more difference. HOW BORING IS THAT!?!?!
[This may be a little contrived and ironic cos I, personally cant engage in an 'intellectual' conversation in mandarin. And I must say I'm rather westernised. BUT, i do regret this!!! Then again, regretting, and doing something about it are totally different issues that are closely linked. Perhaps i'm just being stupid.]
Back to the issue of marriage. I personally, cant really get along with guys (simply because of a mental barrier that i just cant destroy -- as of now i hope). [note: 'get along'= be best friends with, and go out shopping together.] Even so, I do wish to get married, although i REALLY hate being tied down. But because i strongly believe that marriage is a rite of passage/ stage of life that one must go through, if not, life is just not complete. This may be rather cynical, thinking that marriage is somewhat 'compulsory' instead of something to do with emotions, namely Love. (i type the word, with much hesitation.)
[Love to me, is something sacred and precious. It is not given. I believe in it's sacredness, but I dont believe it exists. Or perhaps, it simply doesnt exist for me -- as of now, i hope. I believe in letting Love go undefined. I believe in it's magical existence. I am naive.]
The opposite of Marriage is not Divorce.
Marriage is a ceremony that should be given full respect. Marriage the package, includes simply, living life to the fullest with your spouse and children, going through problems together, facing affairs with objectiveness, and bringing that dying spark back into both your lives. By filing for a divorce, it's as good as simplifying and diminishing the power of marriage. Divorce is not just the breaking of a bond, that's signed on black and white. Divorce, is a blasphemy.
Marriage is not a two person thing. Divorce is.
Here, I'll like to elaborate on my idea of Marriage.
It starts of with Love. Hot passionate sex. Adrenaline rushes. Orgasms.
Then, it evolves slowly, into a mundane life consisting of work, meeting with clients, putting up with colleagues, and dying to shoot up the ladder.
A child, may now come into the picture. A child-- most probably by accident, from a night of comfort sex.
Mother goes through post natal depression; father goes through monetary problems.
Mother continues to face post natal depression (which now includes obesity); father turns to prostitutes (or simply a hot chick that he met at a pub/ at work).
Pause.
Note: Extra Marital Affair (EMA)
My remedy for this? Just let your hubby fuck another woman. You KNOW it's not Love. It's lust. It's comfort sex with a hot babe. After a while, he'll definitely get sick of her because there simply isnt any future with that bitch. But you dont just leave it as that, my dear. It IS, your fault, to a large extent for his straying. (Yes, by saying this, I'm believing strongly that the women's mind is much more powerful than the men's. To guys out there, this may not necessarily be good. It screws up our happiness, you realise.) Girls, you know, I somehow believe that it's not our cunt that a man is all googoo gaga about. You know that. There're much more that we can do for our man than just sex. Really. He married you for something else. If he just wants sex, he'll go to Geylang. Just work on that "something else". I am quite sure, you know I'm talking about. (Yes, i admit, i dont know what that "something else" is exactly. You realise, i'm single. Have been so, for approx 18years. Dont you dare pity me now.)
The person you have hot HOT passionate (raunchy maybe?) sex with, is not the person you will marry.
Continuing, after this EMA, there's a greater life out there.
Kids, more kids.
Watch them grow up--it's simply magical.
You reaching different areas of your career, not necessarily higher in rank. Rank is not as interesting as something different. Really.
Your kids grow wings and fly off.
You finally get your private life with your man.
Retire.
Here, your life just started a new chapter--definitely not the last.
Alright. I am going to stop here. I wonder how convincing i am. After all, i'm only 17. I might just laugh at this entry 10 years down the road of life. But as of now, this is what i truly believe in. Perhaps, i havent really touched the topic of divorce. Perhaps, i havent fully understood the concept of marriage. I.e., what i've just wrote, may seem naive and immature. But by believing, it may just happen.
I wonder, if i have what it takes to be a marriage/family counsellor. I will definitely dabble in it in some part of my life.
Theatre too. I'm quite convinced, that i really hate money. Or rather, the way money affects my life. Disgusting. Anyhow, i'm going to embark on a mission to convince my parents to let me major in theatre in the states. Bless me.
Passion and Believe.
cheers to marriage and life,
carpe diem.
(ok, i dont have the exact quote cos i have to register for the straits times online to access the article. And that's just a waste of my time, albeit my newspaper is 2 levels down.)
Anyway, I never thought that the situation was THATT bad. It simply never struck me that we Singaporeans, are losing so much of our "Asian roots", and succumbing to (irritating) "Western values".
I am a traditionalist -- one that keeps closely in mind my roots, while accepting modern views. I believe in moving on (explains my piercings??). But i strongly believe that one must not forget our roots. Simply because, if everyone does so, in 1000 years' time, everyone will be the same. No more cultural exchange, no more different views, no more difference. HOW BORING IS THAT!?!?!
[This may be a little contrived and ironic cos I, personally cant engage in an 'intellectual' conversation in mandarin. And I must say I'm rather westernised. BUT, i do regret this!!! Then again, regretting, and doing something about it are totally different issues that are closely linked. Perhaps i'm just being stupid.]
Back to the issue of marriage. I personally, cant really get along with guys (simply because of a mental barrier that i just cant destroy -- as of now i hope). [note: 'get along'= be best friends with, and go out shopping together.] Even so, I do wish to get married, although i REALLY hate being tied down. But because i strongly believe that marriage is a rite of passage/ stage of life that one must go through, if not, life is just not complete. This may be rather cynical, thinking that marriage is somewhat 'compulsory' instead of something to do with emotions, namely Love. (i type the word, with much hesitation.)
[Love to me, is something sacred and precious. It is not given. I believe in it's sacredness, but I dont believe it exists. Or perhaps, it simply doesnt exist for me -- as of now, i hope. I believe in letting Love go undefined. I believe in it's magical existence. I am naive.]
The opposite of Marriage is not Divorce.
Marriage is a ceremony that should be given full respect. Marriage the package, includes simply, living life to the fullest with your spouse and children, going through problems together, facing affairs with objectiveness, and bringing that dying spark back into both your lives. By filing for a divorce, it's as good as simplifying and diminishing the power of marriage. Divorce is not just the breaking of a bond, that's signed on black and white. Divorce, is a blasphemy.
Marriage is not a two person thing. Divorce is.
Here, I'll like to elaborate on my idea of Marriage.
It starts of with Love. Hot passionate sex. Adrenaline rushes. Orgasms.
Then, it evolves slowly, into a mundane life consisting of work, meeting with clients, putting up with colleagues, and dying to shoot up the ladder.
A child, may now come into the picture. A child-- most probably by accident, from a night of comfort sex.
Mother goes through post natal depression; father goes through monetary problems.
Mother continues to face post natal depression (which now includes obesity); father turns to prostitutes (or simply a hot chick that he met at a pub/ at work).
Pause.
Note: Extra Marital Affair (EMA)
My remedy for this? Just let your hubby fuck another woman. You KNOW it's not Love. It's lust. It's comfort sex with a hot babe. After a while, he'll definitely get sick of her because there simply isnt any future with that bitch. But you dont just leave it as that, my dear. It IS, your fault, to a large extent for his straying. (Yes, by saying this, I'm believing strongly that the women's mind is much more powerful than the men's. To guys out there, this may not necessarily be good. It screws up our happiness, you realise.) Girls, you know, I somehow believe that it's not our cunt that a man is all googoo gaga about. You know that. There're much more that we can do for our man than just sex. Really. He married you for something else. If he just wants sex, he'll go to Geylang. Just work on that "something else". I am quite sure, you know I'm talking about. (Yes, i admit, i dont know what that "something else" is exactly. You realise, i'm single. Have been so, for approx 18years. Dont you dare pity me now.)
The person you have hot HOT passionate (raunchy maybe?) sex with, is not the person you will marry.
Continuing, after this EMA, there's a greater life out there.
Kids, more kids.
Watch them grow up--it's simply magical.
You reaching different areas of your career, not necessarily higher in rank. Rank is not as interesting as something different. Really.
Your kids grow wings and fly off.
You finally get your private life with your man.
Retire.
Here, your life just started a new chapter--definitely not the last.
Alright. I am going to stop here. I wonder how convincing i am. After all, i'm only 17. I might just laugh at this entry 10 years down the road of life. But as of now, this is what i truly believe in. Perhaps, i havent really touched the topic of divorce. Perhaps, i havent fully understood the concept of marriage. I.e., what i've just wrote, may seem naive and immature. But by believing, it may just happen.
I wonder, if i have what it takes to be a marriage/family counsellor. I will definitely dabble in it in some part of my life.
Theatre too. I'm quite convinced, that i really hate money. Or rather, the way money affects my life. Disgusting. Anyhow, i'm going to embark on a mission to convince my parents to let me major in theatre in the states. Bless me.
Passion and Believe.
cheers to marriage and life,
carpe diem.
